While away on vacation last month I took the time to think about our family and I realized that I speak to our kids in a firm tone a little too often. As I reflected about my parenting, I remembered reading a blog about a year ago called, “The Orange Rhino.”
The Orange Rhino is blog about a woman’s journey to not yelling at her kids. This website has been a great resource for me as I learn to transform my parenting. The day after we got home, I had the chance to look over the website. Then my husband and I sat with our two older girls (5 & 7 years old) and shared with them that I had set a goal to not yell at them for the next 365 days. Of course, it doesn’t end there! We explained what was considered yelling, and that they couldn’t of course do things that are not acceptable just to see me struggle with not yelling. As a parent, it is easy to get caught up in the moment and raise our voices. In those heated moments, when it is clear that I could start yelling at any moment, my children have our permission to say ‘Orange Rhino.’ We decided this was a good way to keep them involved and to help me keep on track with my goal.
The other day after telling the older girls to clean their room for the 3rd maybe 4th time, I became very frustrated. It was very evident that I wasn’t pleased with their lack of obedience. When all was said and done the oldest looked at me and said “Mom, I thought I was going to have to say, ‘Orange Rhino!’ That was close!”
When I tell people that I started doing this, the question I’m asked the most is: ‘have you seen a change in your family?’ The answer is this. YES. Especially in the oldest. I’ve become more aware of how sensitive she truly is.
Though it’s only been 3 weeks, I’ve learned a lot about myself. About what triggers me to lose it and what to do to keep it together. Here’s the link to the ‘Orange Rhino‘ if you would like to check it out and became living proof that moms don’t have to yell.