On September 10th our third Gem was born. Here’s what I’ve learned in my first two weeks of being a mother of three.
1) The importance of a good support system
Being surrounded by the right people makes a huge difference. We had friends praying for us and encouraging us during pregnancy, during the delivery and they continue to do so. We’re fortunate that our group of friends organized dinners for us for the first 1 to 2 weeks of being home from the hospital. We had friends and family who would come and take care of the other Gems. We’ve had this every time we come home with a new family member, but this time, I appreciated it so much more.
2) Being an individual starts from day one
Things I did with Gem number 1 and 2 may not work with Gem number 3.
3) Watching a sleeping a baby never gets old!
No explanation needed.
4) The adjustment period
Some days it felt like we were home for ever and no progress was being made. Gem number 2 seemed to be doing well until day 5 when her over use of the word ‘NO’ started. After speaking with other moms of 3 and asking about what they did, I think we’re getting closer to her accepting the new normal. It is such an encouragement to talk to others who have had success in what we’re struggling in.
5) Time management is key
Over the last year I’ve worked in this area in many different ways. Making lunches, feeding a new born, doing laundry along other chores will eventually need to get back to routine. Slowly but surely we’re getting there. (Having my husband home is a huge help!!) I don’t want to be that mom who is always frazzled, unorganized, or late and use the excuse of having a family. I’m not the first, and I won’t be that mom.
6) It’s a lot of work but a lot of fun
I believe that sums up parenting at any age. It’s a lot of work but a lot of fun. Different ages require different things. Balancing each child’s needs is tricky at times and I know without having fun with them this would be that much more difficult. I’m learning to let go of the mommy guilt so many moms struggle with and have decided to laugh more at my mistakes rather then to dwell on them. That creates a much better atmosphere for everyone.